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Positive Ways To Deal With Anger
By: Aurelia Williams
Introductory comments
By Royane Real
Of all the emotions, anger is one of the most difficult to deal with. As the author of the article below, Aurelia Williams illustrates, even very young children get angry
One of our most important emotional tasks as we are growing up is to learn to handle the anger that all of us sometimes have.
Many people never successfully accomplish the task of learning how to deal with anger. That is why we have such tremendous social problems as bullying, road rage, and physical and emotional abuse. In fact, the problem of people being inappropriately angry and violent may be growing.
Some of us, especially girls, are taught that we should never be angry. Many parents tell their children that all anger is wrong. Instead of giving them some positive outlets to process their anger, they create children who are simply overwhelmed by their intense angry feelings and don’t know what to do with them.
As adults, we need to learn ways to deal with our own anger without hurting others
In the following article, Aurelia Williams suggests some methods you can use to cope with your anger.
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Feature article
Positive Ways To Deal With Anger
By: Aurelia Williams
"This is making me a headache!"
That lovely line above came out of my now 5 year old's mouth when he was frustrated over the daunting task of trying to learn how to tie his shoes. He blurted the sentence out then tossed the sneaker across the room. I walked over to him and talked to him about his frustration (Heck, getting those loops just right is hard work -- smile). I explained to him that while it is OK to get angry and frustrated that there are proper ways to do it.
Anger is a completely natural response to frustration. Let's face it, life is filled with things that can become frustrating, and most of those things are totally out of our control. What we do control is how we deal with those issues. In this message, I wanted to touch on positive ways that we can deal with, express and release our anger and frustration in positive ways.
Think it out -
When you begin to feel angry -- sit down, relax and then try to think about how you can solve the issue.
Talk it out -
Talk to a friend, coach, counselor, or a church member. Expressing your anger by talking to someone about it is a great way to get the anger out.
Write it out -
Keep a journal about your feelings. It really helps to get your feeling out of our head and heart and onto paper.
Let it out -
Find a place that is secluded and SCREAM!! Yes, let it out - you can scream into a pillow, punch a pillow or stomp. Sometimes a good temper tantrum is in order.
Channel it out -
Find some creative way to channel your feelings. Listen to music, paint, turn on the music and dance! There are many ways to creatively channel out anger.
Chill out -
Try listening to calming music, taking in slow deep breaths, meditating or doing yoga.
Work it out -
Do something physical. Get out and run, go to the gym or go for a brisk walk.
Please keep in mind that anger isn't always a bad emotion but sometimes the way we deal with our anger is bad. There are many times where anger can be good and is quite appropriate. It can be protection from allowing other people to manipulate or dominate us. It can also motivate us to take action when needed.
Article Source: www.ladypens.com
Article by: Aurelia Williams, certified Personal Life Coach and owner of Real Life Coaching and Real Life Solutions. She's the author of Journey To Joy, an empowering and life changing eBook.
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