Royane Real
Our Words Have Power
By: Royane Real
Author of: “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation"
Every time we have a conversation with another human being, we are trying to express something about ourselves, even when we are trying to hide the truth. We may be trying to say that we are happy and comfortable with the person we are with, or we may be saying that we are unhappy and don’t know what to do. We may use our words to hide our true natures from everyone around us.
We need to remember that our words have great power. Too many of us use words carelessly, and mindlessly. When we use words mindlessly, when we are less precise and less honest with what we are expressing, we can have results in our lives that are very different from what we intended.
The way that other people perceive us is based on a mix of how we look, how we are dressed, how we speak, and how we behave. We may have the best of intentions, and we may be a nice person, but that doesn’t always show if we allow our language when we make conversation with other people to become harsh, self centered, or critical. Too often we speak this way without realizing it. Being harsh and abrupt has become a habit, a part of us.
Many of us would be shocked if we could actually listen to ourselves, if we could only hear the way that we sound to others. Many of us don’t acknowledge the negativity we have within us, but we are the first to complain about what seems to be the negativity in the world around us.
To practice discipline in our own minds means that we think before we speak. That we take the time to search for a deeper truth, and have the courage to express what is really in our hearts. Too often, we don’t realize what we really wanted to say to another person until it is too late.
Why not take a look right now at the way you are talking to others. Do you try to be your best self in every conversation? Or do you think the goal of every conversation is to be a phony, or a bully? Do you always need to win, or do you always need to say the last word? Do you have to always be right, and do you have to show the other person they are always wrong?
( The above introductory comments were written by Royane Real. To learn more about how to improve your social skills and conversation skills, download my special report Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation It's available at http://www.lulu.com/real )
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