Change How You Say It, Change Your Attractiveness
By: Catherine Franz
Introductory comments by Royane Real
Author of: “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation"
In every conversation we have with another human being, we are trying to express something about ourselves, even when we are trying to hide the truth. We may be trying to say that we are happy and comfortable with the person we are with, or we may be saying that we are unhappy and don’t know what to do. We may use our words to hide our true natures from everyone around us.
In the feature article below, the author Catherine Franz reminds us that our words have great power. Too many of us use words carelessly, and mindlessly. When we use words mindlessly, when we are less precise and less honest with what we are expressing, we can have results in our lives that are very different from what we intended.
The way that other people perceive us is based on a mix of how we look, how we are dressed, how we speak, and how we behave. We may have the best of intentions, and we may be a nice person, but that doesn’t always show if we allow our language when we make conversation with other people to become harsh, self centered, or critical. Too often we speak this way without realizing it. Being harsh and abrupt has become a habit, a part of us.
As Catherine Franz mentions in her article, many of us would be shocked if we could actually listen to ourselves, if we could only hear the way that we sound to others. Many of us don’t acknowledge the negativity we have within us, but we are the first to complain about what seems to be the negativity in the world around us.
To practice discipline in our own minds means that we think before we speak. That we take the time to search for a deeper truth, and have the courage to express what is really in our hearts. Too often, we don’t realize what we really wanted to say to another person until it is too late.
Why not take a look right now at the way you are talking to others. Do you try to be your best self in every conversation? Or do you think the goal of every conversation is to be a phony, or a bully? Do you always need to win, or do you always need to say the last word? Do you have to always be right, and do you have to show the other person they are always wrong?
( The above introductory comments were written by Royane Real. To learn more about how to improve your social skills and conversation skills, download my special report Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation It's available at http://www.lulu.com/real )
Feature article:
Change How You Say It, Change Your Attractiveness
By: Catherine Franz
Language, whether it’s emerging from our mind, our heart, or our lips, says a lot about ourselves. It tells others what state we're in at the time, actually where we are in our life, as well as how we dress our self, our body and our soul.
It also tells us what we will do now, what we did in the past, and what we will do in the future. Yet, we are so comfortable with our own voice and too busy to hear its voice that negative expressions escape constantly. Does what you say and how you say it count?
U-betcha. For those of you who are students of the laws of attraction, also known as manifesting what you desire with the power of energy, this is another way you can use the law for your benefit.
Let me expound on this in the simplest of ways. What you say is how you are. There are usually many ways to say what you say. Many ways will not attract, others will.
Let’s journey together on this with an example. Let’s use an expression we tend to use more mindfully and less expressively, "I could care less."
"I could care less," taken literally means "I care more than I might seem to." You are saying that you do care some and that isn't what you intended to mean which was not caring at all. The true way to state your feelings would be, "I couldn't care less." It may sound harsher, yet it’s the truth.
It is important to be true to your words. Being true in your language is a vital step to being in a place of truth in yourself and in the world.
As a I child, my Dad drummed the expression into me, and probably to you as well, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."
Practicing the laws isn't about sugarcoating your feelings or your language. It’s about expressing them from your own truth. But what the saying tells us is that, even though we can acknowledge this as our truth we don't have to express that truth verbally.
Because we are so comfortable with our language, we have stopped hearing what we are saying 90% of the time. The only way to catch your language is to use this exercise.
Here is a practice that will help you begin your journey in how to uncover the truth to your language. It will also change your hearing process anytime you speak. After listening consciously to your words, then and only then, can you begin a strong path to attractiveness. Also, hearing and acknowledging what you said takes courage.
Is it easy to listen to yourself? Heck no. To me, my voice sounds like chalk squeaking on a blackboard. Focus on the outcome to move past the squeal. The shift in attractiveness is well worth the practice.
Audio record your telephone conversations. Just your side of the conversation. There isn't any country or state laws that affect you since they are one sided as there is in recording two-way conversations or in-person conversations.
And you don't have to ask the other person’s permission. Extra tip: This is also a great way to improve your marketing and telephone skills as well.
Listen to the recording. Listen for the incomplete sentences, unfinished thoughts, and vocal expressiveness or flatness. Did you really say what you meant? What wasn't said that you thought you said? What wasn't finished and you thought was finished? What words were slung together that attracted the opposite of what you wanted?
Extra tip: Tape record your conversations with your children. We become so comfortable with those we love that our language sabotages our relationships frequently. Especially with teenagers. Awareness and acknowledgment are the first two steps to changing anything. We can't do either without hearing it first. And you can't change what you don't acknowledge.
Attractive language allows you to walk a different path through life. Take the leap, find just enough courage to practice this exercise, it may be painful at times, but it will rewrite your life and all those that touch it.
(c) Copyright, Catherine Franz. All rights reserved.
About the Author Catherine Franz is a Life and Business Coach and Master Practitioner in the Laws of Attraction. Catherine guides others in finding the light of their own existence and walking an attractive truth in their own lives. http://www.abundancecenter.com blog: http://abundance.blogs.com
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