Author of “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends”

One of the reasons that I decided to write a book about how to make friends and why I wanted to devote a large part of my website to the topic of friendship is because loneliness is on the rise in modern life.  Our lifestyle today is very hectic and society in general is not really set up to encourage people to have good opportunities for friendship.

I have read many accounts in books and articles where the author described the way their parents and grandparents used to live.  Although life in the past was sometimes filled with hardships, their parents seemed to have much more time to relax in the evenings, sitting on the veranda and socializing with their friends of a lifetime.  For many people today, that style of life has disappeared.  There just isn’t a lot of time left over to spend with friends.

Sometimes we think to ourselves that we have so many time-saving gadgets today that we have a much easier lifestyle than our parents and grandparents ever did.  However, is this always true?

We often feel sorry for women in the past who had few opportunities for education or for jobs, and were expected to simply stay home and look after the house and the family.  However, in the past, women who stayed home got more help looking after their homes from their children and spouses. In addition, these women weren’t expected to keep the house nearly as clean as what is expected today.  They had a lot more time left over to make close life long connections with other women who were their friends. Socializing for friendship had a high priority.

There’s always something gained and something lost as we move forward.  I want people to remember that leaving behind their friendships as they struggle to survive and thrive in the modern world can be a big mistake.

People today are often just too busy to have much time for friendship.  They don’t stay in one place long enough to make lasting friends, and even if they’re lonely, they don’t have much time left over for the pursuit of real friendship.  And their few friends don’t have much time left over either.

When people do feel lonely, it’s all too easy to stick another DVD in the machine or to change the channel.  We can be surrounded by lots of fancy electrical equipment that blasts our minds and our senses with light and color and helps us forget that we don’t really have friends.

Sometimes I think that many of us have decided that friendship is something that people had to do in the old days because they didn’t have TV back then.

Your TV set or video game isn’t really going to nourish that part of your soul that needs to be around other people.  Your fancy high stress job won’t make up for a lack of emotional support and relaxation that can come from having close friends.

We need to have close friends whether or not we have families.

When we are young, we often have romantic dreams of a future marriage that will fill all our social and emotional needs.  Often it turns out that our marriages don’t satisfy us as much as we expected.  After we have been married for a while, we find we need to have another perspective about who we really are as people.  Friends can provide that perspective.  Friends can provide some of the comfort and enjoyment we wish we could find at home but can’t always get.

In the following article about friendship, the author Jennifer Wright makes a lot of very interesting points about how important it is to have good friendships.

In this article, she particularly focuses on the importance of women maintaining friendships, particularly at the time of mid-life when so many people’s lives are changing.  Friends can help us get through this time with a renewed sense of joy and optimism.

( The above introductory comments were written by Royane Real, author of the ebook Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends 

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Everything You Need to Know about Making friends

By Royane Real

Do you ever with you had a better social life?  Are you tired of being lonely?  Perhaps you suffer from shyness and you wish you could learn how to be outgoing and popular.

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