By Royane Real 

Feeling lonely is one of the most painful emotions that humans can experience.  Human beings are meant to be with others.

We are social creatures with a deep need to be connected, even those of us who like to spend a lot of time alone.

Most of us go through a period of feeing lonely once in a while.  Perhaps we have moved to a new city and we don’t know anybody yet.  Maybe we’re just starting school and all the other students are strangers.  Perhaps we’ve just lost a loved one and we wonder how we are going to survive the emotional pain.

Some kinds of loneliness are worse than others.  Loneliness that lasts a long time can become harder to bear because we feel like it will go on forever.  The loneliness that comes from losing a loved one through death or through a break up can feel unbearably intense.  While we are going through the pain, we can’t imagine that we will ever heal, even though most of us eventually do.

Other kinds of loneliness are not so intense, but they are still difficult to bear.

What is the cure for loneliness?  The best way to cure loneliness is to realize that the sensation of feeling lonely is a sign that you need to change something in your life.

A feeling of loneliness may be a signal that you need to put more effort into connecting with others.  That means, make more effort to start conversations with other people, and respond to their attempts to befriend you.  You can’t simply stand and wait for others to become your friend.  You need to reach out to people.

The truth is, it can take a long time to fill our lives with special people who really care about us.  Not every stranger off the street is will turn into the kind of friend we are looking for.  Still, we need to put in the time and the effort in order to create some friendships that nourish us.

For many people, persistent loneliness can be an outcome of shyness or depression, or feeling unworthy of love.  There are people who feel lonely and unloved even while surrounded by loving family and friends.  They are unable or unwilling to feel the love inside of them.  They may even feel emotionally dead inside.  This kind of loneliness may need a lot of emotional work to overcome.

A feeling of loneliness can also happen because you have lost an important connection to yourself.  If are feeling like nobody understands you, it might really be a sign that you do not understand yourself.  Your sense of loneliness may also be a sign that you are empty in a spiritual sense, and that you need to explore this part of yourself.

When you are trying to make connections with others, do not neglect to seek a deeper connection with yourself.

While you are trying to connect with yourself, do not neglect to make connections with others.

The above article is written by Royane Real.

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Learn to Be Popular - even if You're Shy and Lonely!

By Royane Real

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