By Royane Real

Author of  “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends”

Over the years, I have written a lot of articles to help people make more friends and to keep their friendships strong.  Today however, I decided to write about something very different.  Instead of writing about how to improve your friendships I'm writing to tell you how to lose the friends you already have. 

Are you interested?

If you really work at it, and do just the right things, you can make sure you lose all your friendships, even those you have had for many years!  With a little bit of effort, you can also use these suggestions to discourage new friendships from forming.

If losing your friendships is your desire, here are a few suggestions for you to try.

One classic way to drive friendships into the ground is simply through neglect.  This is perhaps the best method for destroying friendships because it requires almost no effort or thought.  Simply do not bother to call your friend for months at a time.  Don't try to get together to chat.  Don't phone them.  Don't even email them.  If you happen to be even slightly busy, use this as your excuse.

Eventually the friendship will simply wither away.  Your friends will look for someone else to spend their time with.  This technique is by far the easiest method to use since it requires no effort on your part, yet you are almost guaranteed that your friendship will come to an end.  

Many people swear by the technique of being a fair weather friend.  A fair weather friend is someone who only calls on their friends when they need something.  They call when they need to borrow a car, or borrow ten dollars, or borrow someone's ear for sympathy when they are going through a bad time.  Since most people don't like fair weather friends, these friendships are doomed to end quickly.

An excellent way to destroy a friendship is through gossip.  When you have a friend who trusts you, you probably know a lot of their secrets.  Why not spread a few of them around?  You'll have a lot of fun doing it right until you get caught.  Chances are that your friend will sooner or later discover that you have been talking about them behind their back, and POOF!  Your friendship is over!

Here is a variation on this technique.  When you have an appointment to do something with your friend, phone them at the last minute and tell them that something better came up and you are going to do something that is more fun with somebody else.

Another classic method to destroy a friendship is to borrow money from your friends, and then conveniently forget to pay it back to them!  This is such a well known technique that even Shakespeare warned, "Neither a borrower nor a lender be!"

Another way to drive friendships out of your life is to constantly make fun of your friends in a mean way.  If they complain to you that they feel offended, tell them that it was just a joke!  If they still act hurt, tell your friends they don't have a sense of humor. Then be sure to laugh, just to prove your point. 

It may take a long while, or it may take a short while, but eventually your friend will want nothing to do with you.

One of the most important parts of a healthy relationship is mutual respect.  However, if your goal is to destroy a friendship, then mutual respect has to go out the window. 

This one is on of my personal favorites:  be completely preoccupied with yourself.  Don't show any interest in what your friend is doing, thinking or feeling.  After all, you are much more important than anyone else.

No matter what the topic is, you should have your mind already made up.  You don't need to really listen to your friends opinions.  Feel free to interrupt them constantly when they are talking.

Be sure to monopolize the conversation.  Talk about yourself a lot.  After all, your opinion is more important than any one else's. You are much more interesting than anyone else.

If you have been gifted with a sharp tongue, why not use that gift to drive your friends away?

Point out constantly what your friends are doing wrong.  This can be a lot of fun, and it can even make you feel superior to them.  Here are some great things you can criticize about your friends:  their clothing, their figure, their boyfriends, their jobs, or even the way they talk.  Why not make fun of them?  Especially if there's a few other people around to witness their humiliation. 

Every one will be more impressed with you when they see you are such a critical person.

If your friend complains, explain to them that you are just being yourself.  You are just being honest.  They wouldn't want you to stop being honest, would they?  Tell them you are just trying to help them improve. 

Be sure to point out to your friend all the times when you have been right and they have been wrong.  Remind them over and over again about the mistakes they have made.  This can be very enjoyable for you, although for the other person it won't be.

This technique works especially well with friends who are very sensitive. Their desire to be your friend will be destroyed in no time.

I hope you have enjoyed this list of ways to drive your friends away.  Whenever you have friendships that you want to destroy, be sure to implement these suggestions.  I can guarantee that they will work!

Some of these techniques may not work instantly, but if you keep doing them, eventually you will lose your friends.

Of course, if you don't want to destroy your friendships, and if you actually want your friends to stay around and like you, you'll have to do something very different. You'll have to reverse every single one of these suggestions I have made.  If you want to keep your friends and to have friendships that last, you'll need to do the exact opposite!

This article above is written by friendship expert Royane Real. 

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