Author of   How to Overcome Your Shyness and Your Fear of Rejection and Have the Friends and Lovers You've Always Wanted”

 

Are you a person who suffers from a very strong fear of being rejected?  Some people are devastated by the fear of being rejected, even over minor incidents such as inviting someone else to go out for coffee.  A fear of being rejected keeps many people from dating or even making friends.

 

Everyone gets rejected at times, but not everyone is devastated by rejection.  Why is it that some people can get over rejection so easily, while others are totally devastated by it?

What’s the difference between a person who gets over rejection easily and a person who is paralyzed by a fear of being rejected?  What can a person who is sensitive to rejection do to overcome this fear?  How can a person who fears being rejected learn to be more confident and socially outgoing?

Many people who have a fear of being rejected by others have experienced chaos, neglect, and even trauma in their earlier years.  This insecurity can make them much more vulnerable to the idea that someone else might reject them in the future. 

The people who fear rejection may be much more emotionally sensitive, and they may have a poor sense of self esteem.

People who deal with rejection more easily usually have a good dose of healthy self esteem.  The negative or positive opinion of one other person is not going to destroy the self esteem they have built up over a life time. 

People who get over rejection more easily may also be less emotionally sensitive.  They may have a clear, more realistic way of thinking about rejection.

A person who deals easily with rejection realizes that everyone gets rejected on occasion, but they don’t take rejection personally.  They don’t view rejection as a proof that they are flawed and unlovable.

A person with healthy self-esteem realizes that taking occasional social and emotional risks is a necessary part of developing relationships. If someone turns them down, they don't take it personally.

They just move on and look for someone else who will be more receptive. It doesn't occur to a socially confident person to think that the reason they were rejected is because they are deeply flawed or inadequate.

You can improve the way that you feel about being rejected by learning to change your thinking.

Here is a brief summary of some steps you can take to overcome your fear of rejection:

- If your fear of being rejected is not very severe, you can learn to overcome it by yourself.  If your fear is extreme, you can benefit from having a very good therapist.

- Remind yourself why you want to overcome your fear of rejection. Remind yourself that your goal is to have a happy social life.

- Change what you say to yourself about rejection. Don't tie your self worth to whether or not you get accepted or rejected by other people.

- Make many, many social approaches to other people.  Avoiding other people will make your fear of being rejected become stronger, while making more social approaches can make your fear become weaker.

- Go slow when developing new relationships.  Take baby steps.

If your problem of fearing rejection is very severe and longstanding, you may need a lot of practice to change the way you think about rejection.  A good therapist can help point out new, more supportive ways of thinking.  Remind yourself that the end result will be worth the effort.

When we hold back from interacting with others because we fear they might reject us, not only do we give up some occasional pain and discomfort, but we also miss out on all the potential warmth, comfort, fun and excitement that other human beings can offer us.

Remember, if you never put yourself in a situation where someone can say 'no' to you, you will also never be in a situation where someone can say 'yes' to you.

Does getting rejected If your problem of fearing rejection is very severe and longstanding, you may need a lot of practice to change the way you think about rejection.  A good therapist can help point out new, more supportive ways of thinking.  Remind yourself that the end result will be worth the effort.

 

When we hold back from interacting with others because we fear they might reject us, not only do we give up some occasional pain and discomfort, but we also miss out on all the potential warmth, comfort, fun and excitement that other human beings can offer us.

 

Remember, if you never put yourself in a situation where someone can say 'no' to you, you will also never be in a situation where someone can say 'yes' to you.

You can learn more about how to overcome a paralyzing fear of rejection by reading my special report How to Overcome Your Shyness and Your Fear of Rejection and Have the Friends and Lovers You've Always Wanted”  

Learn to Be Popular - even if You're Shy and Lonely!

By Royane Real

Do you ever with you had a better social life?  Are you tired of being lonely?  Perhaps you suffer from shyness and you wish you could learn how to be outgoing and popular.  Maybe your fear of rejection is so strong that you don't dare to risk approaching anyone in case they turn you down.

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