By Peter Murphy

Introductory comments by Royane Real

Author of   “How to Overcome Your Shyness and Your Fear of Rejection and Have the Friends and Lovers You've Always Wanted”

If you suffer from shyness, you probably find it difficult to make conversation with others.  You may feel very lonely a lot of the time, but you don’t know any ways to overcome your shyness.

You can spend a lot of time wondering what's wrong with you and wondering how to make friends if you are very shy.  Even when you feel very lonely because of shyness, you still don’t know how to break out of your shyness prison.

I’m very familiar with all the problems that come with shyness because I used to suffer from it for many years.  It took a long time to learn how to overcome shyness and make friends.  That is why I want to help people overcome shyness and have a great social life.  That is why I have written books and reports to teach people the skills of making friends.  It’s time to put an end to all the loneliness.

Shyness can seem like a never ending nightmare.

Perhaps you have even prayed for your shyness to be taken away from you.

I remember that I used to wait and wait thinking that one day I would wake up with my shyness all gone.  Instead of my shyness being magically cured however, it went away slowly, tiny little bits at a time, as I gradually learned new behaviours.

While you are waiting for your shyness to go away, why not take some action now?

There are steps you can take to overcome your shy behaviors, and your shy reactions.

In this article below by Peter Murphy, you can learn some of the actions and behaviors that can help you get over your shy attitudes.  You can start to interact more with the people who are around you, turning total strangers into acquaintances, and eventually turning some of those acquaintances into real friends!

In the article, the author points out that many shy people like to arrive late at social functions and leave early.  I know this behavior all too well.  I used to spend about fifteen minutes at parties before I decided that I just had to get home, and I would leave.

Today I know that this running away from social gatherings was the wrong thing to do.  Shy people often need to spend a lot of time in the feared social situation so their mind can become accustomed to the gathering and stop the inward panic.

With more practice and more exposure to social situations, you may even forget that you were ever shy at all!

( The introductory comments above are written by Royane Real )

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Learn to Be Popular - even if You're Shy and Lonely!

By Royane Real

Do you ever with you had a better social life?  Are you tired of being lonely?  Perhaps you suffer from shyness and you wish you could learn how to be outgoing and popular.

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Feature article

Effective Ways of Solving Shyness

By Peter Murphy 

Everyone knows shyness is a problem that needs to be solved. But how does one go about it?

The first thing that a shy person has to acknowledge is that he tends to avoid social situations because of his shyness. Taking that first step is a major factor that helps in solving shyness.

The irony is that many shy people actually want to be involved in group interaction but do not know how.

Second, a shy person should try to immerse himself in specific social situations to give himself, and others, a chance to interact. A shy person who attends a party will probably hover at the periphery for a few minutes then leave.

To counter this, a shy person must give himself more time to meet people.

At a party, he could post himself at the buffet and strike up a conversation with someone about the food and drinks being served. Nothing heavy like politics, just simple chitchat to tide things over until he can find someone who has something in common with him.

He might run into someone he knows and turn to that person for a new topic to talk about. He can ask simple questions like: how is your family? Little things like this will help the shy person become more used to interacting with other people by degrees.

It does no good for a shy person to try to arrive late at the occasion, hoping that the less time he spends in the social event, the better it will be for him. That is counter-productive.

A better solution is to arrive much earlier than expected, so he can get a chance to meet more people. Of course, this may be daunting to a shy person, so perhaps he can try arriving 30 minutes after the party starts first. Then he can move up to arriving right on time, and eventually to arriving maybe 10 minutes before the expected time.

Shy people are known for maintaining a smaller comfort zone than people who are more confident. This means they have fewer friends and acquaintances with whom they feel comfortable.

Usually, a shy person will engage in routine activities with this small network of people over and over again because they do not like to try new things out with new people.

Though a shy person should not pressure himself about overcoming his shyness, he could opt to expand his circle to include new contacts and acquaintances. He could try new things, like hobbies or sports that people in his new circle are fond of pursuing.

This is good, because not only does it give the shy person something new to do, it gives him something new to talk about with his old circle of friends aside from the same old routine.

Although it would be nice if there were a magic pill for solving shyness, the fact is, there is none. Still, by following the tips above you can make steady progress and enjoy a happy social life.

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About the Author:

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available only at: conversation starters  

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