Royane Real
The Top 10 Questions For Anyone Wanting To Increase Their Circle Of Friends
Introductory comments by Royane Real
Author of “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends”
Some people find it very easy to make new friends and to make their friendships last forever. Others find it quite difficult to search for a compatible friend who will like them and truly support them.
Is your life filled with a lot of acquaintances, but no real close friends? If that’s the case, why is this so? Have you been pushing others away? Are you just too busy? Do you fear getting hurt?
If you don’t have the ideal social life at the moment, you will have better luck in creating new friendships if you take a bit of time to examine what you truly want in a friend, and what you have to offer.
You may be a wonderful person, but perhaps you are too busy or too judgmental to let other people into your life. Sometimes all it takes is a slight attitude adjustment and you will start attracting friends instead of pushing them away.
If you feel like you don’t ever meet people that you have anything in common with, why is this so? Are you judging others too harshly? Are you unwilling to get close to anyone unless they are just like you? Do you find it too hard to accept differences in others?
The following article on friendship by Martin Sawdon discusses the issues that you should think about whenever you are seeking to create a better circle of friends. If you are not being very successful at having the social life that you truly want, you may have to do some soul searching to come up with the reasons that are stopping you from having the friends you desire.
The introductory comments which appear above are by author Royane Real.
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Feature Article:
The Top 10 Questions For Anyone Wanting To Increase Their Circle Of Friends
By: Martin Sawdon
1. How many relationships can you fully nurture in your life?
The closest friendships seem to last forever with no need of nurture. Years elapse and on reunion they drop away instantaneously. Other friendships must be fed and watered.
For many of us the number of relationships we can sustain is finite. This is the concept of the Circle of Ten. What is the number of friends which you can sustain?
2. How much time are you able to invest in a new friendship?
If you are able to nurture more relationships in your life, how much time do you have to invest? If time is short, is the goal sufficiently important to merit dropping some other activity or responsibility?
3. Are you really seeking a friend or rather another acquaintance, or someone whose prime role is to support you? Can you tell the difference?
Friendship is a partnership and not something superficial. Are you ready to be an equal partner in terms of giving and receiving?
4. Do you have acquaintances who following an investment of time might become true friends?
Finding and making friends of people currently unknown can be a time-consuming process. Can you abbreviate it by learning more about people you already know?
5. What personal characteristics have drawn you to your friends in the past?
What characteristics do you seek, which would you expressly avoid?
6. Occasionally I meet a kindred spirit and there's an instant meeting of the hearts and minds. More often, friendship builds more slowly. In either case the first stage is meeting someone and recognizing something in the way they smile, speak or act which sparks your interest.
7. In my experience those initial meetings develop into true, lasting friendships through pursuing shared goals or sharing stressful experiences.
What are the meaningful interests you would like to share with a friend while building that relationship?
8. Do you find it easier to make friends with the same or opposite gender? What issues does this raise with your partner and how will you address them?
9. Time today is short: if you are uncomfortable directly addressing with a prospective new friend the possibility of developing a true friendship, is this an area for you to stretch your risk-taking muscle? Or with this particular person may that approach backfire?
10. Time today is short. If you judge the use of words to accelerate development of a friendship unwise, what are the unspoken rituals signifying movement of a relationship to a higher level?
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Martin Sawdon of Coaching-Works! has a passion for the creation of super-successful organizations - Sustainable Workplaces. As a coach he has been described as a velvet-gloved bulldozer and as a speaker, powerful, engaging, outstanding.
To learn more about Martin and Sustainable Workplaces, Sustainable Relationships, and the Sustainable You, visit his website ==>http://www.coachingworks.ca
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