Royane Real
Friendship Day - Bury Old Enmity
By: CD Mohatta
Introductory comments by Royane Real
Author of “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends”
Sometimes our friendships take unexpected turns. A person who was a friend now seems to be an enemy. Sometimes we know the reason why this happens, but sometimes the reason remains a mystery.
Do you have any former friends that now seem to be your enemies? Perhaps a friendship in your life started out with the best feelings on both sides, but for one reason or another, there is nothing but mutual hostility now between you and the other person.
This is always a painful experience when it happens. Not every relationship or friendship has a happy ending.
In the following article about friendship, the author CD Mohatta points out our lives are short. When a friendship turns to enmity, we need to try do something about it.
You may be unfamiliar with the word “enmity”. I confess, I looked up the meaning of the word so I could be sure you would understand it. This word means hostility. Hatred. Deep seated hatred.
These are pretty strong words to express something that sometimes happens to old friendships. We do not know how much time we have available to try to patch up relationships that have gone bad. Perhaps we have many years in which to do it, but perhaps not.
A relationship that turns from friendship to hatred can happen for a number of reasons. Most likely, there is some sort of betrayal involved.
Can these relationships be fixed? It won’t be easy, but it’s not always impossible. If the problem was mostly your fault, begging for another chance rarely works.
You will probably have to start off making very low key attempts to get lines of communication open between yourself and the other person. You will have to become very honest and take responsibility for your behavior.
You will have to show that you can be trusted. You can’t become hostile and defensive and start making accusations to the other person about how they are being unfair to you.
As CD Mohatta suggests, sending an e-card may be one easy way to at least try to get the process of reconciliation started. You could also try a quick phone call, or send an email.
( The introductory comments which appear above are by Royane Real, who is the author of the popular book “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends” To improve your friendships download it today at http://www.lulu.com/real )
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Friendship Day - Bury Old Enmity |
By: CD Mohatta
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Can we use this day for something else? That is to bury enmity? Please go back to your school days and trace your friends till now. You will find few persons, with who you were good friends, but on the way because of some tiffs or misunderstandings, the friendship turned to enmity. You no longer remained friends after that. Our wounds hurt us most. We stop our growth with negative thoughts and emotions. What if you were friends again? Would you not feel good? Recollect anytime, when you have donated anything to a charity. What did you feel at that time? You felt very good, isn't it? How about giving friendship in charity to some old friends who have turned enemies? How about becoming friends again. How about forgiving the old friend. How will it feel if you erase the memories of ill feelings towards him/her? You will feel cleansed. You will feel fresh and you will feel inspired. The only thought blocking you would be - how to show the hand of friendship? Why not send a ecard on friendship Day? How about sending a Good Day ecard on that day to that friend, or a Thank You ecard saying thanks for becoming friends again. Or a sorry ecard and bury the old enmity forever? An ecard will save you from the embarrassment of meeting face to face and you will always know how the other person is responding without losing your self-esteem. What do you think? You can view these ecards and decide which of them fits the bill. Friendship Day Ecards, Good Day ecards, Friendship ecards. An ecard is the simplest way to kill old feelings of hatred and bring the friendship to life again. Article Source: http://www.ArticleBlast.com |
About The Author:
CD Mohatta writes for ecards and online greetings, screensavers and desktop wallpapers. He also writes his blog on friendship - http://happyfriendships.blogspot.com/ The topics of his writings include love, inspiration, holidays, birthdays, nature, religion and spirituality, success etc. You can have his writings on your desktop with free desktop wallpapers. These are static wallpapers which can be your computer desktop background all the time. Read the messages and get inspired all day. He also writes for http://www.funquizcards.com/. Here, you can take quizzes to find out about yourself and your relationships.
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