By: Rick Cowles

Introductory comments by Royane Real

Author of “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends”

Do you suffer from loneliness?  If you feel lonely, it may be because you are shy.  Or, you might be lonely because you don’t have enough social skills to make friends.  If you don’t have friends, it may be because you don’t have any confidence in yourself, or you might not feel as if you are worth very much.  When you don’t feel as if you are worth much, you will find it hard to make friends because you are sure that no one else will like you either.

Being alone and depressed can be a terrible feeling.  I remember that in the days when I had very few friends while growing up, I would desperately feel as if everyone else had somehow learned the secret to making friends, and I had not.  Later I discovered that this belief was actually true.  I had not learned to make friends, because there was nobody around who could teach me even the basics of how to make friends with other people.

I grew up in a family where nobody knew how to make friends, and nobody had any self esteem.  We could not learn anything about making friends or about getting along with other people from my parents because they did not know how to make friends either.

I had to spend many years learning how to make friends with others and how to make friends with my self.  Today, I have learned how to start conversations with others easily, and how to make new friendships.  I feel confident and happy.

Many people today are still lonely and have few friends, and they don’t know how to overcome loneliness.  In fact, loneliness is on the rise everywhere.  More and more people have lost the ability to connect socially and emotionally with other people.  The modern world makes it too easy for people to be busy and it becomes hard to even know your neighbor.

Many of us need to learn the basics of how to be friendly and reach out to other people.  Once we make friends, we need to learn how to value the friends we have, instead of driving our friends away because of a misunderstanding.

( The above introductory comments were written by Royane Real, )

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Learn to Be Popular - even if You're Shy and Lonely!

By Royane Real

Do you ever with you had a better social life?  Are you tired of being lonely?  Perhaps you suffer from shyness and you wish you could learn how to be outgoing and popular.

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Overcome Loneliness and Win Friends With 9 Easy Steps

By: Rick Cowles

Some people tend to have a "magnetic" personality that easily attracts others to them, while some people have no magnetism and tend to be ignored by others.

What makes the difference among people who have personal magnetism and those who do not? Is it some mysterious something called "charisma?" Is it "allure," "charm," or "that certain something?"

I believe that the way people react to you is, to a large extent, within your control. Hence I've listed 9 interactive skills you can easily apply that will almost certainly increase your attractiveness to others.

1. Remember That the Other Person Has an Ego

One of the principal keys to increasing your interpersonal attractiveness is to concentrate your attention on the needs of the other individual's ego, not your own.

2. Refrain from Making Obvious Criticisms

If you nitpick and find every little thing wrong with everything, you will be seen as petty and trivial in your approach to life. Big people let the little things go - without comment.

3. Make the Other Person Feel Important

If someone makes you feel that you are indeed a very important person in his or her eyes, you are likely to be attracted to that person.

4. Pay Compliments Often

Don't confuse giving a compliment with flattery. A compliment is sincere and genuine while flattery most often is the opposite.

5. Avoid Talking About Yourself

Focus your attention and interest on the other person, not yourself. Allow others to talk about themselves and their interests first. Subsequently, you can talk a little about yourself and your interests. But do it sparingly.

6. Smile Frequently

Rate the power of a smile highly when you are trying to win a friend. A genuine smile communicates silently a world of meaning.

7. Make Good Eye Contact When You Are Conversing

Eye contact is one of the primary ways in which you communicate to others that you are interested in them and what they have to say.

8. Acquire the Art of Active Listening

When you are listening to someone else talk, make a conscious effort to match, within reasonable limits, the other individual's facial expression.

9. Be Rewarding to Others, But Not Excessively So

People tend to favour befriending someone who can benefit them in some way. But if you are excessively rewarding to another person with little or no cost to that individual, you are likely to eventually be taken for granted.

If you are lonely and can't seem to form friendships, don't be discouraged. There are a lot you can do to improve the state of your personal life. You don't have to accept conditions as they are. Much is within your own control. Put the 9 strategies above into practice, and you'll see yourself winning friends in no time.

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