By Royane Real

Author of " How to Overcome Your Shyness and Your Fear of Rejection and Have the Friends and Lovers You've Always Wanted"

How do you react to rejection?  When you are rejected by someone, do you just shrug off the rejection and quickly get over it? 

Or do you feel so ashamed and humiliated over every rejection that it becomes harder and harder to approach other people in the future?  Do you tell yourself terrible things every time you are rejected, such as calling yourself a loser?

Is your fear of rejection so strong that your fear keeps you from having the social life you want?  Do you stay home feeling lonely because you can’t find the courage to ask someone to go out with you on a date?  Do you just assume that nobody would find you attractive and likeable?

In this article you will receive some help in overcoming your fear of rejection.  But, to overcome a fear of rejection, you will need to change the way you think about yourself and you will need to change the way you behave.

Being rejected by someone doesn’t mean that you are a hopeless loser.  Being rejected doesn’t mean that you are pathetic.  Being rejected simply means you have had an experience that all human beings have occasionally experienced. 

Being afraid of rejection doesn’t mean you are a coward.  Being afraid of rejection doesn’t mean you are a hopeless loser. 

Being afraid of rejection means you are an extremely sensitive person.  Being afraid of rejection may mean you have had some devastating emotional experiences in the past.  Being afraid of rejection may mean that you haven’t had a chance to learn some better strategies to cope with rejection.

People who are very emotionally sensitive, who lack confidence and self esteem, or who are very shy tend to have these reactions to an experience of rejection:

 -   They tend to fear the risk of rejection far more than socially confident people do

 -   They are more likely to experience rejection as a very painful and humiliating experience.

 -   They often assume they are entirely to blame if they are rejected

 -   They are more likely to interpret social rejection as proof that they are somehow at fault, or defective

 -   They are more likely to imagine rejection even where none has occurred

 -   They are more likely to avoid social interactions if they believe rejection might occur.

 -   They are more likely to believe that if they have been rejected by one person, they will continue to be rejected by everyone else, for the rest of their lives. 

If your life history has been filled with a lot of abuse, whether it is physical, mental, sexual or emotional abuse, you will probably have a lot of problems dealing with rejection when you grow up.  You may need the help of a very good therapist to overcome these problems. 

For most people however, they can start to overcome their rejection fears by taking a few simple steps. 

Here is an example of some practical steps you can take to overcome your fear of rejection:

   -  Remind yourself why you want to overcome your fear of rejection. Remind yourself that your goal is to have a happy social life.

   -  Change what you say to yourself about rejection.  Don't tie your self worth to whether or not you get accepted or rejected by anyone.

   -  Take a series of baby steps when developing new relationships  

By Royane Real

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By Royane Real

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