How to Find Friends at Your Workplace
By : Jenna Mello
Introductory comments by Royane Real
Author of “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends”
The following article by the author Jenna Mello gives us some good tips on how we can make friends at our workplace.
For many of us, the place where we work is the single best source of finding compatible people we can become friends with. Of course, not all of the people we work with will become close friends of ours, but it is very likely that among the dozens of people we interact with on a daily basis, we will find commonality and friendship with some of them.
Why is the workplace often a good place to find friends? One reason is that our workplace is the place where we spend a good part of our waking hours. As we see the same people day after day, and as we interact with them, we gradually reveal a bit more of our personalities.
Those people who we enjoy, we will tend to spend more time with. Those people who are not compatible with us are the people we will tend to avoid as much as possible.
As we spend time together, we are often bound by working on the same goals. We overcome difficulties together, and this gives us something in common. We may have frequent occasions when we can chit chat with each other about our lives outside the workplace. This helps us to see each other as more human, and it enhances the bonds of possible friendship.
Remember however, you are in a work environment, and not in your own home. Someone else is paying for your time and someone else is expecting you to be working. Not all workers want to get close to you, especially if they don’t work in the same area that you do. It’s best not to overburden co-workers with your problems unless you are already very good friends.
During the course of a working day, we often get the chance to exchange many jokes together, and sometimes we even have to rely on our co-workers to get us through a period when we are having problems.
In fact, I would say, if you can’t find any friends at the place you work, perhaps you should consider working somewhere else!
( The above introductory comments were made by Royane Real )
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How To Find Friends At Your Workplace
By: Jenna Mello
Our job can be considered as our second home. The common nine-to-fiver invests more than 40 hours a week at work, not including overtime. Based on this detail, it is imperative to find workplace pals for both our personal and professional progression. Although not important, making friends around the office has its advantages.
If you are busy with paper work, your "work chums" are bound to be there to lend you a helping hand. Fishing for advice? Then get prepared to be given an honest reaction from your pals. Your mates can also be a shoulder to cry on if you have letdowns and worries about your head or co-worker. Let us not overlook that having buddies at work makes it effortless for us to look forward to another day at work.
The first buddies that you will certainly make are those that are near to you. Those within the same department as you are also fast to befriend, since you already possess things in common and would find discussion to come impulsively. But do not limit yourself to just a few buddies. Reach out and befriend as many co-workers as feasible. Bear in mind that there is no such thing as too many friends.
These are some tips and suggestions on how to connect and eventually get friends at work. This guide is not for regular employees. Instead, it is written based on new hires.
Put your choice foot forward. Smile and be really interested when you are presented to a co-worker. If you feel perplexed doing this, then welcome to the club. Just make sure to be pleasant and make the best out of this situation.
Names are crucial! Have you ever experienced having a discussion without even remembering the other person's name? It's so awkward! Full names are hard to remember, I'm aware, that is why I would propose to give your nickname when presented, and get your co-workers' too.
Be available during lunch and snack breaks. Free hours are the best times to befriend your co-worker. Suggest to tag on lunch-outs when the occasion presents itself. Moreover, never pass up an invitation because this is an admirable indication that they want to know you better. If you turn down the invitation, they may think you would not like to be friends, or worse, they may take it as an insult.
Bring along conversation pieces to the office. Brandish photos, baubles, or mementos at the office to help you inspire a conversation. Make sure your supervisor tolerates it, though. This is a great time for your co-workers to know a little bit more regarding your personal life.
Be open. Accept that not everyone will conform with you or approve of you. You'll sure run across one or two that will rankle you as well. Just keep in mind to keep an eye on your manners and don't be fresh. Instead, grasp that each co-worker is an individual, with differing likes and dislikes the same as you.
Take it at a steady pace! Give it some time and friendship will thrive naturally. Forcing yourself to someone might turn them off. Again, things will happen naturally. There is no need to be too needy or clingy.
About the Author:
Jenna Mello suggests sixwise.com, a website giving help and counsel on various topics including relationships and careers.
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