Want To Date My Friend, Should I Ask Them Out?
By: Nocita
Intoductory comments By Royane Real
Author of Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends
The following article by author Nocita is about a problem that occurs in many friendships between male and female friends, whether the people involved are young or old.
The problem is this: you have a friend of the opposite gender that you are attracted to, but you don’t know whether or not to ask them out. You want to have a romantic relationship with this person, but you are worried about rejection if they have no similar feelings for you. What if you ask the person for a date and they turn you down, saying that classic dreaded line, “I just want us to be friends”.
What if you go out for a while and then you break up? Then you’ve lost both a lover and a friend.
On the other hand, what if dating your friend leads to a successful romance? Many successful romances and marriages start out just this way – two people who are friends with each other gradually become closer and closer and become romantically involved.
No doubt about it, deciding whether or not to date your friends can be a tricky problem.
In the example that the author Nocita writes about, there are many signals being given out that show that both people are already deeply attracted to each other on a romantic level. Both parties seem to be too timid to say anything, but the mutual attraction is definitely there.
But what about those cases where you can’t tell if there’s a mutual attraction or not? What if you’re not very good at understanding those signals of attraction? What if both people are acting very much as if there is no romantic undertone whatsoever to the relationship?
This kind of situation is particularly difficult for young people to go through. As you get older you have more experience in dealing with this type of situation and you become less terrified of making a fool of yourself. As you get older and more experienced, you are more likely to correctly interpret the underlying signals the other person may or may not be sending you.
When you don’t know how the other person is going to react to a request for a date, it’s best to start off slowly. Here’s a strategy you can use if you are timid. Start out by asking your friend for a mid-day lunch or coffee. If the coffee or lunch works out successfully, ask your friend to accompany you to a fairly brief, but fun event where romance is not the focus.
Each time you go out on one of these “mini-dates”, tell the other person freely how much you have enjoyed their company. After one or two successful mini-dates, ask the other person if they would like to do more dating, or whether they wish to remain simply friends with you.
By this point, you will be in a much better position to know whether a romantic relationship can start, but you can still go back to being friends if that is what both of you wish to do.
(The above article was written by Royane Real )
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Learn to Be Popular - even if You're Shy and Lonely!
By Royane Real
Do you ever with you had a better social life? Are you tired of being lonely? Perhaps you suffer from shyness and you wish you could learn how to be outgoing and popular.
My popular book “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends” will teach you everything you need to know about how to make friends. Where to find them. How to start up conversations with people you don't know very well. How to get over your shyness.
You'll learn how to keep a conversation going. You'll find out what to do to keep a friendship strong and make it last.
Isn't it time to stop being on the outside looking in? Now is the time and here is your opportunity to change your life from one of being lonely to one of being popular.
Testimonial from a happy reader :
"Some other authors will charge you way more for self help programs that won't be written as good as this one, but this one is packed with information and is worth every penny." Testimonial by Niko Sekuloski, Detroit
Learn more about this exciting book that can change your life forever “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends” at http://www.lulu.com/real
Feature article:
I Want to Date My Friend, Should I Ask Then Out?
By: Nocita
Maybe yes, maybe no, this depends on the relationship you have with your friend. Will asking your friend out make them uncomfortable? Or, is it that you both feel the same way but don’t know how to approach each other about this subject?
You say, you don’t want to ruin the relationship you have with your friend, if you ask them out for a date and they say no. You couldn’t deal with the rejection and embarrassment that you may feel later on.
Sandra has known Tom for three years and they are close friends. Tom has had a crush on Sandra for the last two years but does not know how to let Sandra know how he feels.
Ironically, Sandra has wanted to date Tom since they met while attending college classes three years ago. She has been wanting Tom to ask her out on a formal date, but he hasn’t. She even thought about asking him out, but she was unsure if this would create problems for their friendship. Neither one of them knows what they should do, so they haven’t done anything about how they feel.
Could it be that your friend is feeling the same way you do, but also has a fear of rejection as well? There’s got to be an easier way to break the ice, to get us both past this, if we think our relationship can be more than a friendship.
Are there some signs that you both are giving off that may make you think you are attracted to each other in a romantic way outside of your friendship? Well, here are some signs that you may want to look for, when you consider approaching your friend about going on a date and developing your romantic relationship:
1. You both enjoy spending lots of time together and never seem to get enough of each other.
2. Both of you find yourselves staring at each other for long periods of time but don’t say how you feel about each other romantically.
3. You both spend almost everyday with each other and you feel like that no day is complete without spending time together.
4. Both of you feel butterflies inside when you see each other and are very anxious and happy to be together.
5. You and your friend think about each other all the time. You both find that you say each others names all the time. You even sometimes complete each others sentences.
Well, if you and your friend have any of these signs then it sounds like you’re more than just good friends! You must be in love! It’s probably a good idea at this point to go for it!
Ask your friend out on a date. Chances are, your friend may have wanted to do the same thing. You’ll be happy you did. Both of you will probably wonder why you didn’t do this sooner. Looks like Sandra and Tom will be asking each other out on a date soon!
Article source: http://www.articledashboard.com
Nocita is a writer and web designer that creates websites providing informative tips on various subject matter including personal finance tips on your personal finances at www.personal-finance-tips-for-you.com ; dating tips at www.mydating-tips.com and your choice of ebooks at ebook-corner-for-you.com
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
Make Yourself Unforgettable
Become the kind of person EVERYONE remembers and NO ONE can resist!
By Dale Carnegie Training
You’ll find that people in every area of your life — from work to home and everywhere in between — respond to you more positively and generously than they ever have before!
Discover more information at this link: http://nightingale.directtrack.com/z/10542/CD1323/
Add this page to your favorite Social Bookmarking websites
