Introductory comments  by Royane Real

Author of  “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends"

 Here is an article about how to approach other people with confidence when you would like to know them better.

The author Michael S. Francis offers several pieces of good advice in this article.  This advice can be helpful whether you are trying to ask someone for a date, or if you would like them for a friend.

When psychologists study the differences between those people who make new friends easily, and those people who find it very hard to make new friends, one of the main differences is that people who easily make friends usually make the effort to introduce themselves to others.  People who have a hard time making new friends take the strategy of waiting and waiting for somebody to notice them. 

In real life, the strategy of waiting and waiting for someone to notice you and become your friend or your dream date hardly ever works.  In fact, this strategy is generally a recipe for failure.

If you want to have a better social life and especially if you want to date more often, you need to be a little more outgoing.  If you are a shy person, this can be difficult.  For many people who are somewhat shy, the fear will diminish once you have a lot of practice in approaching other people.

Another piece of advice in this article that can be very helpful is to assume from the beginning that you will be successful.  Assume that you are likeable and that the other person will like you. 

This is the attitude that people who are socially successful have.  They approach others with the complete belief that the other person will like them. If it turns out that the other person doesn’t actually like them, then those people who are socially successful never blame themselves. 

Instead, if an attempt to make friends with somebody new doesn’t work out, the people who are socially successful blame the other person.  They might think to themselves, “That person is just too stuck-up.”  Or they might think, “That person is just not smart enough to realize what a great person I really am.”  This attitude helps them to be confident.

Starting new relationships is one of those situations where confidence creates the conditions for success.  If you assume the other person won’t like you, then you won’t behave like a desirable mate or friend.  If you assume that the other person will like you, then you will be more likely to take the steps that will show you in the best light.

( The above introductory comments were written by Royane Real.)

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Self Introduction – The Only Way of Getting the Partner of Your Dreams

By: Michael S. Francis

It all begins with the introduction.  In order to get the attention of a person you don’t know, but you are really interested with him or her, then it is time for you to make friends.

You need to start by getting your act together and gain that confidence. Then introduce yourself and engage in conversations that will make him or her notice you and in turn attract that person towards to getting to know you better.

So don’t be too conscious about how they’re going to like you.  Instead, shift your thinking to how you’re going to like them. Claim that they will like you. As you approach them, you will notice that they will try to ready themselves for you, so you need to walk with confidence.

Don’t feel awkward as you approach them. Remember that you are not the only person that needs to be confident.  They too are into the consciousness that they should be at their best too when you are around. So be at your best as well.

Do not give them the benefit that you are unequal with them and you are the inferior one since you are making the first move, or else you will really feel awkward.  Bear in mind that everyone wants to get noticed.  So you both start at the same grounds, technically speaking.

Approach them with a smile. Be genuine about it. Make an eye contact as you do so. Then say your name, and then extend your hand for a handshake. You can expect that they too will say their names. Remember as you do this, do not be slouchy or make unnecessary movements. Then ask open-ended questions so you can start a conversation.

Do not sound like you are engaging them in an interrogation. Always have conversations that will spark their interest and they are much more willing to share their thoughts about it. Then be a good listener. Do not try to monopolize the whole conversation.

Also, be generous of praise and show your excitement with what they say then you can either agree or disagree with them. You should be careful when you this though. You need to be polite and at the same time be eager to speak your mind out. As you converse, make sure that it is always about them, so switch the topic to them and what they know. Do not try to impress them by showing off. That will not work.

Remember their names and facts about them. Do not focus entirely with the person you are interested with. Friends of the person you like are also a part of the package so you need to make them feel good about you too.

Then if you are ready to invite them or that person, then go ahead. You will know how to time it definitely. Don’t take it personally if they can’t make time for it. Just be thankful for that wonderful time you had with them. However, if they do respond you favorably, then you know that this is the beginning of your quest in order to attract the person you like, along with the fact that you have gained more friends and this should have boosted your confidence.

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