Conquer Your Loneliness with 7 Effective Strategies
By Rick Cowles
Introductory comments by Royane Real
Author of “Your Guide to Finding Friends, Making Friends and Keeping Friends”
Why are some lonely people able to overcome their loneliness quite easily, while for others, making friends is a lifelong struggle?
One reason is that loneliness can sometimes be mixed in with other problems such as depression and poor self esteem.
If you are a lonely person, but you have good self esteem and confidence, and if you are physically mobile and have access to other people, you can overcome your loneliness by improving your social skills and by making a greater effort to make friends with other people.
However, this advice is not enough to help all lonely people.
If you are very lonely but you also suffer from depression, or if you have terrible self esteem, then learning a few more social skills won’t be enough to fix the terrible feelings you have inside.
Loneliness is much harder to bear when it is mixed in with a sense of depression, hating yourself, and being filled with despair. I know how this feels since I suffered this way myself for many years.
I speak from personal experience here, since I spent many years suffering from loneliness, depression and terrible self esteem. With a lot of work I was able to make friends with other people and make friends with myself. It did not come easily to me, and I can’t really say that the process is over, but I can say that even if you start out in a deep pit of despair, it is possible to eventually get out of it. Even if you are very lonely you can still learn to create a good social life.
If you start out as bad as I did, you will probably have to face many years of therapy. I can’t say that I recommend all therapists, but I certainly recommend the good ones.
Because I am so committed to sharing what I have learned with others, I have written several books and many articles on the topic of how to make friends, and how to overcome loneliness. I have also put together many articles on this website that can help you function better socially. By reading the many articles on this website, you can learn more about how to improve your conversation as well as learn how to improve your self esteem.
The following article by Rick Cowles on overcoming loneliness can give you some ideas you can implement immediately in your life so that you can start to feel less lonely and make more friends.
( These introductory comments above were written by Royane Real. )
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Feature article:
Conquer Your Loneliness with 7 Effective Strategies
By Rick Cowles
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a painful awareness of not being able to connect with others and important needs are not being met.
There is no over-the-counter medication that can cure loneliness, but there are several proven methods you can take to overcome it. You'll need to be proactive if you wish to banish your loneliness forever. Here are some strategies you can apply in conquering your loneliness:
1. Believe in yourself and build up your confidence. Most of the experts on loneliness agree that the fundamental strength on overcoming loneliness begins with self-development by strengthening your inner life, recognizing you're important and loving yourself. Others will be drawn to you if you are confident in yourself.
2. Reach out to others, volunteer yourself in charitable organizations and render help to anyone who needs your assistance. Volunteering is a remarkable way to beat loneliness. When you focus your mind on others, you'll be less likely to worry about your own loneliness.
3. Take effort to make friends with everyone you meet and avoid rushing into intimate friendship too quickly. Intimate friendships usually develop gradually as people learn to share their inner feelings. Value all of your friendships and their unique characteristics rather than believing that only a romantic relationship will relieve your loneliness.
4. Don't look for solution to loneliness in a sexual relationship. Aside from the very real risk of sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies, there are other psychological drawbacks of premature sexual activity. Long-term erotic relationship needs to be nurtured by emotional roots and love.
5. Join a society or club that share similar interests/values as yourself. Like minded people are easy to get along and develop close relationship with. Make the most of every opportunity for social contact, however slight.
6. Get out and engage in some activities. These activities don't have to cost a lot of money, just a simple walk in the park or taking your dog out for a stroll will suffice. The whole idea is to keep your mind occupied so that you'll have less time to ponder on your loneliness.
7. If your loneliness becomes unbearable, don't be afraid to seek help. You can look for support group that deals with loneliness or consult a therapist. There's nothing embarrassing about asking for help. When you ask, most often than not, you'll find help is readily available.
Loneliness does not have to be a permanent state of affairs. Loneliness is a condition that is completely curable with a little patience and some hard work. Don't let your loneliness rob the joy and happiness out of your life, get up and start putting what you've learned into practice. To your success in love, life and happiness!
Rick Cowles is a Personal Life Coach who has more than 5 years of counselling experience. He is also the author of the ebook "How To Break Your Loneliness" - based on his experience helping people who are suffering from loneliness and depression. Visit his website at http://www.BreakLoneliness.com for more information on how to download a copy of his latest ebook.
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