By Royane Real

Do you need some small talk tips to help you cope with social situations that make you nervous?

Imagine this:  you are at a social function, related to work, and you have to go into a roomful of people you’ve never seen before.  People are standing around in little groups making chit chat with each other.  You don’t know a soul in the room.

Does this kind of situation terrify you, or does it fill you with excitement and pleasure?  Would you find it easy to wade into the crowd of strangers, and start conversations with them?  Or would you feel nervous and awkward about trying to make small talk with people you don’t know?

Many of us would feel intimidated in this kind of situation, and we would find it difficult to make small talk with strangers.

What would hold you back?  In most cases it’s fear: fear of saying something stupid, fear of rejection, fear of being judged, or fear that you'll end up in an awkward conversation.

What’s the worst thing that could happen?  It’s true that we really could say something stupid, we really could look uninteresting and unintelligent, and we really could get partly into a conversation that goes completely dead.  Then we would just stand there awkwardly feeling like huge failures.

Instead of trying to make small talk with people we don't know well, many of us hold back starting a conversation until someone else talks to us.  We become passive while we hope someone will help us out of our social predicament.

Here’s a tip that can make it a lot easier for you to start up new conversations:  the best way to start a talk with a new person is to ask them some questions. You have to ask the right sort of questions of course.  You need to find the right balance between questions that are too general and those that are too personal.

A question that’s very general might be a good place to start with a total stranger, but after a while you want to be discussing something with a bit more substance.  A question that’s too personal might turn them off right away.

If you want to be a successful conversationalist, you have to tune into the other person.  You have to be alert for signs that you have hit on a conversation topic that really interests them.  When you make an effort to spend more time discussing the topics that are of interest to them, you show them that you care about them as a person. 

This makes them want to talk to you more.  If you both genuinely enjoy talking to each other, a deeper relationship can develop in time.

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