By Royane Real  

Author of   “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation”

When you are feeling a bit self conscious at a social gathering, it’s easy to believe that you’re the only person in the room suffering from shyness. You might think that you’re the only one that has difficulty thinking of what to say in conversation. But really, shyness is very common.

It’s not just the quiet person sitting nervously in a corner at a party who might be having trouble with shyness.  It’s quite possible that even the most outgoing person in the room might actually be feeling quite shy!

If you don’t believe this, just do your own simple experiment, and ask some confident looking people if they ever suffer from shyness.  Chances are that just about everybody will own up to feeling shy at certain times.

Yet feeling shy doesn’t have to cripple your social life.  Becoming more socially confident is an inside job and an outside job.  You can improve your conversation techniques and your listening skills, but you’ll also have to change the way you talk to yourself internally, and maybe even the way that you feel about other people.

If you currently try to deal with your shyness by yelling at yourself for not having any confidence, let me tell you now, that isn’t going to work!  If you try to deal with your shyness by avoiding any situations where you have to talk with people, that isn’t going to work either!

Many shy people have successfully learned little social tricks that help them start a conversation and keep it going.  You can learn to be more outgoing and become a better conversationalist if you commit yourself to practice these skills often. You can get more ideas in my special report on making friendly conversation, which is available at this website.

As you practice your small talk skills and your conversational skills, watch the way that people react to you.  This is the way that you will learn whether or not your new conversational tactics are working.

If your conversational techniques don’t seem to work, you will have to keep making adjustments to the way you handle your conversations.  With more practice, you will eventually become more skilled and more successful at making conversation.

One way you can learn to give yourself a confidence boost by using positive affirmations and visualizations. 

When you focus too much on your own internal sensations of shyness, you can easily become overwhelmed with your negative thoughts.  But if you commit yourself to looking for something that you genuinely like in the person you are talking with, your focus will be outside yourself.  The other person will sense that you truly appreciate them and will be much more likely to want to keep talking with you.

In the following article by author Susie Cortright, you can get many great ideas to help you overcome your shy behavior and learn how to become more sociable.  You can use these tips the next time you are at a social gathering, or when you are trying to make conversation with somebody you’ve just met.

While you are at this website, be sure to check out some of the other great articles in this section about overcoming shyness, making conversation, and making friends.

( The above article is by Royane Real.)

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By Royane Real

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