Author of “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation” 

Most of us want to be charming to others. We want people to remember us with fondness and look forward to talking to us again. 

Some people seem to have charm from the time they are very young.  They grow up maintaining their ability to charm others with their pleasing personality. 

Other people are much more socially awkward.  They have a hard time knowing what to say.  When they do say something, it often seems awkward and inappropriate. 

Would you like to know how to be more charming and have other people look forward to talking to you? 

To become more charming to others, you need to understand a bit about human nature. 

When we make conversation with other people, we usually hope they will be impressed with us. We want others to think we’re intelligent and charming.  We want them to think we are unique and valuable in some way.

Well, guess what?  The other person feels exactly the same way! 

We’ll be much more successful in our conversations with others if we can always remember that the other person secretly has exactly the same hopes for their conversation with us.

The people we talk with usually want us to like them and to be impressed with them. 

Every person on this planet is convinced that they are unique.  This is not just an egotistical fantasy.  Every person actually is unique.  We all have ways in which we are similar to others, and ways in which we are different from those around us.

Even though we are all unique individuals, we don’t always feel as if that uniqueness is valued.  Sometimes we are criticized for our uniqueness and we become ashamed of the ways in which we are different from other people.

Sometimes we feel too unique.  Everything about us that is different than normal can be like a double-edged sword.  If we are too tall or too short, or too shy or too intelligent, we stand out.  Sometimes other people focus on the ways in which we are different because they want us to feel bad about our uniqueness.

People who are bullies and gossips will single out the uniqueness of others and use that uniqueness as a way to attack other people and make them feel bad about themselves.

Sometimes our uniqueness doesn’t get noticed and we get treated as if we are just average, humdrum people.  How we long to have someone notice that we are special!

If you want to be a human being who is remembered for your charm and kindness, look for the uniqueness in others and find a way to praise them for it.  Let people know that you have noticed the special qualities they have, and that you value them.  Also, let some of your own uniqueness shine through.

Look for the ways in which each person is special, and find a way to let them know you truly value and appreciate their special unique qualities.

Let yourself show that you are delighted with the other person, not just in the things that you say, but in your gestures and facial expressions.   Allow yourself to give them a genuine smile.  Even a shy smile can be very charming.

If you keep these ideas in mind every time you have a conversation with someone, you will become much more likeable and charming to the people you encounter.

( This introductory comments above are written by conversation expert Royane Real, author of  “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation”  

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