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Introductory comments

By Royane Real

Author of “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation”

If there’s ever a time when you want to have good conversation skills, it’s when you’re on a date with someone new.  After, you can afford to be awkward and look stupid when you’re making conversation at a bus stop with a stranger that you’ll never see again, but nobody wants to look stupid and awkward when they’re on a date.

When we are dating, especially with someone we want to get to know better, we usually desperately want to impress that other person.  If we’re on a date, chances are we’re already secretly attracted to that other person and we really want to know if they’re attracted to us too.  If they aren’t attracted to us yet, we want to make them fall in love with us before the evening is over.

When we go out on a date, we generally try to look our best and be on our best behavior.  We want to dazzle our date with our witty, deep conversation.  But how can we tell if we are really being dazzling with our conversation, or whether we are acting like show offs?  How can we tell if we are being boring our date?

How much should we talk about ourselves, and how much should we be talking about the other person?  Who can we ask for help?

It’s easy to get very intimidated by making conversation on a date.  For many of us, when we get intimidated, we get nervous.  Instead of sounding confident, we end up saying stupid things and then we worry the rest of the night about what our date thinks of us.

One thing you should always remember:  your date is probably as nervous as you are.  Your date is probably wanting you to like them.  Your date will appreciate it if you turn out to be a nice human being who is interested in them.

If you try too hard to be dazzling, your date may end up feeling intimidated.  Or your date may feel you have nothing in common.  Or that you’re not really easy to talk to.  So don’t worry too much about trying to appear as if you are some incredibly impressive person.

Concentrate instead on being your real self and find out whether this other person will really fit into your life or not.  The best way to do that is to simply try to get to know each other and see whether you enjoy being together.

Below these introductory comments you will find an article that will give you some conversation tips to use when you are on a date.

( The above introductory comments are by Royane Real, author of the special report  “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation”    Download it today at http://www.lulu.com/real )

Feature article:

Conversation Tips That Will Make Your Date Like You

By: eWeb Media 

You know how stressful dating can be, but with the right attitude, it can also be a lot of fun. You can learn how to keep it fun and interesting, so that your date will want to see you again. During the first few dates in particular, some simple conversation tips will leave your date hoping that you call for another fun evening.

#1. Find Things You Have in Common

This is probably the best place to start. It could be that you met through mutual friends, or online, or maybe by a chance meeting in public, but regardless, there are certain reasons that you have been looking for someone.

Your reasons and your date's reasons will probably have some elements that are similar. For example, maybe you each just moved to a new city after graduating, or maybe you are both divorced.

But by far the easiest way to find areas of interest you have in common, is to ask something like, "What do you like to do when you are not working?" or "How is it that you live here?"

Of course when you ask these questions, you must sincerely want to know the answers, and then look for areas that you have in common with your date. This will show your date that you are a good listener, and that you both have things in common. This can be all you need to keep a conversation flowing easily for hours.

#2 Be Funny, but not too Funny

You don't want to be constantly making jokes about everything, or show your date how you can inhale spaghetti through your nose.  But use gentle humor that does not degrade others and you will lighten the mood and make both of you relax a bit more. Laughing at something you did shows your date you don't take yourself too seriously, which will make you more fun to be with.

#3 Explore Your Differences

If all you talked about over the first few dates were things you have in common, well, that could get a bit boring. You hopefully love yourself enough, but not so much that you want to date someone just like you. Is your date a painter, or a rock climber, or an avid reader? Ask about these interests, and find out how your date became interested in it, what it is like. Believe me, to show interest in someone else like this will be very attractive to your date. You probably won't have to call for another date; your date will call you.

Lastly, don't forget that during the first few dates, try to keep the conversation on the lighter side. Stay away from real personal issues, unless that is how you met.  For example, there are dating services for special groups, such as Catholics, Democrats, Republicans, Vegetarians, and almost any other group you can think of. In this case you will probably find these areas of common interest easy to talk about. Other than that, stay away from sensitive topics.

Above all be interested in your date, and your date will find you interesting.

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By Royane Real

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