Royane Real
Learn Some Useless Information and Rule the Conversation
By: Darren Hodgson
Introductory comments by Royane Real
Author of “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation”
The following article by Darren Hodgson makes the valuable point that sometimes very trivial information can be a great addition to a friendly conversation. We don’t have to make all our conversational attempts very serious. Sometimes light hearted banter can develop around a very small but interesting tidbit of information that you contribute.
This trivial little tidbits of information that we collect in our minds can be brought out and used in conversations. But like the trivial little odds and ends of widgets and bolts that we might have in our house, not every piece we have in our storage space is going to be useful in every situation.
So, when you have a piece of trivial but interesting information you want to share, ask yourself, is it related to the topic that other people are discussing right now? If it’s not, then the topic might not fit very well into the conversation. If you try to use a piece of information that doesn’t really fit the conversation, you could end up looking a bit socially awkward.
I once watched a charming little Scottish movie called “Gregory’s Girl” in which the hero, an awkward young teenage boy, tried to impress a girl in his class by saying, “Did you know that when you sneeze, it comes out of your nose at 100 miles an hour?”
This was a good example of someone who brought up interesting trivia that was not related to the conversation. By saying it, he did look awkward, although he was also quite charming in his attempt to impress her.
If you do have some interesting tidbits of information that you want to share, and if nobody is talking about a related topic at the moment, you can actually create an opportunity to use your information. First, wait for a bit of a lull in the conversation, and then announce clearly that you are going to change the topic in another direction.
Say something like, “I read a very interesting thing in the newspaper the other day” and then make a slight pause. When everyone is quiet and paying attention to you, then make your statement and wait for the reaction. It’s quite possible that if other people find your contribution interesting, they will add a few comments of their own.
( The introductory comments which appear above are by author Royane Real. )
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Learn Some Useless Information and Rule the Conversation
By: Darren Hodgson
You can never go wrong in a conversation knowing some useless. Something stupid like, “It takes more effort for you to frown than it does to smile because you use less muscles in your face when you're smiling.”
You never know when you may need to know something like this. I was in a customer service meeting a few years ago when I used the smiling information above and it struck a small conversation in the group.
In the meeting the speaker was talking about one to one personal contact with customers. He said “apparently it takes less effort to smile than to frown, I don't know why”. I knew why and piped up “It's because you use less of the muscles in your face to smile.”
This lead to a little friendly banter between myself, the speaker and the rest of the group and a conversation with someone I've never spoken to before. He is now a good work colleague and friend of mine.
This is just one example among many where knowing something that has little use in everyday life has helped start or push along a conversation. It can also make you come across as intelligent and outgoing which will only serve to help you in further conversations with the people around you.
Where do you find this information? Well there are many places to stumble across these little trinkets. TV game shows such as “Who Wants to be a Millionaire” and “The Weakest Link” are good places to find them if you like that sort of thing. If you hear a question that interests you then make a mental note to remember it.
Conversations with anyone you talk to can turn up some interesting little things. Reading, whether it be fictional or factual. If you're reading something that is based on fact you might want to find out more about it. The Internet is a good place for this. It's the best research tool in the world. If you want proof just think where you found this article.
It's all well and good knowing these little trinkets of information but when is a good time to use them? Only when the opportunity presents itself is the answer to this one.
If you just blurt something out in the middle of a conversation like “You can dilute down diesel fuel in your car with plain vegetable oil which cost about half the price to save you money on your fuel costs”, people will just look at you funny. However, if you're talking about diesel or fuel costs then this a prime time to bring this up.
Darren Hodgson has been studying personal growth for the past ten years and he's the author of Obliterate Your Shyness. To find out more about Darren visit http://www.shynessandself-esteem.com
Article source: http://www.eArticlesOnline.com
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