By Peter Murphy 

Introductory comments by Royane Real

Author of “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation” 

The following article by Peter Murphy is about the importance of using good body language in conversation.  The effective use of body language is an important social skill.

I’ll never forget a party I once attended with an attractive young niece in her twenties named Kama , who did not know anybody else at the party.

I had been worried about how young Kama would handle the situation, because I didn’t want her to feel left out.  She didn’t know anybody at the party except me, and she certainly wouldn’t have known anything about most of the work related topics which were being discussed.

I soon noticed however that Kama seemed to be happily right in the center of things, a real part of the conversation.  She looked cheerful and bright and relaxed. 

It took about fifteen minutes before I noticed something else that completely stunned me:  During the whole time I had been watching Kama happily interacting with this group of strangers at a party, she had actually not said a single word!

Instead, Kama had participated in this conversation entirely by the use of body language!  She watched intently as each person was speaking, she smiled brightly, and she nodded her head.  She looked completely alive.  She looked completely interested in the conversations going on around her.

Never once did her body language signal that she was lost or bored or shy, or that she felt left out.  She didn’t squirm or yawn, or cast her eyes downward.

This for me was a truly great lesson in the power of body language to create a full sense of participation in a conversation.

If Kama could appear to be a full part of the conversation without actually saying a word, this means that anyone can learn to enhance their participation in a conversation, simply by choosing to use body language to signal that you are truly listening and truly interested.  And leave out those body language signals that say you are bored or shy.

Why not practice improving your body language skills just for fun?  Next time you are with some people, see whether you can convey your mood or your interest using just your gestures and your facial expressions.  You may find the results surprising, and this might be a very useful exercise for you to try.

The following article by author Peter Murphy discusses more ways that body language can help add to, or detract from your conversation success.

( The above introductory comments are by Royane Real )

How to Start a Conversation with 3 Super Body Language Tips

By Peter Murphy

Using body language to enhance how you start a conversation can lead to great conversation.  You do not have to say much, just a look or a movement can speak volumes for you. 

This is especially useful in situations where you can not seem to get a word in or where you are unsure of how to start a conversation. 

Body language is a way to communicate without putting yourself at risk of saying something wrong.  You probably already use body language, but do not even notice it. 

The following list shows the main points of body language that you should be aware of whenever you wonder how to start a conversation.

1. Eye use

People say that they can learn all about a person through their eyes.  It is probably the most used part of the body to communicate next to the mouth. 

Your eyes can say many things.  From rolling them to winking, you can display many messages with just your eyes.  Sometimes you may unaware of what your eyes are saying. 

Be careful to not let your eyes say you are bored or not interested in a conversation.  You should maintain good eye contact to let others know you are listening. 

2. Body moves

Everyone has said hello with a wave of the hand or shown a lack of patience with a tap of the foot or nodded in agreement. 

Your hands, arms, feet and head can speak for you in many cases.  Crossing the arms, tapping the foot rapidly or putting your hands on your hips can all say things that might not be too good.   On the other hand, clapping, tapping your foot to music or extending a hand shake can say great things.  Always be aware of what your body is saying.

3. Facial expressions

Smiling can say more than words sometimes.  You should be aware of your facial expressions at all times.  You may frown and be unaware of it. 

Facial expressions can often be misinterpreted.  A serious look of concentration may be seen as disapproval.  Just make sure you are using the rest of your body to speak as well and your facial expressions should come across clearly.

Your eyes, body and face can carry on a whole conversation for you.  You can speak volumes with a simple movement.  You can use body language to convey a message you may not otherwise want to vocalize. 

Knowing how to end or start a conversation with body language can come in handy if you do not have time to carry on a conversation, but would like to acknowledge someone. 

Body language can also share a feeling with someone so only the two of you know.  Make sure your body language is saying what you want it to.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available only at: http://www.conversationtalk.com/report.htm

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