People Skills Magic in 7 Steps
By Peter Murphy
Introductory comments by Royane Real
Author of “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation”
Do you think that you have good people skills? Are you sure?
Here is a quiz that can help you answer this question more accurately. See what answers apply to you.
Do other people seem to like you? Always? Sometimes? Mostly? Never?
Do people want to be around you? Always? Sometimes? Mostly? Never?
Do people ever tell you that they enjoy your company? Always? Sometimes? Mostly? Never?
Does it seem as if people try to avoid you? Always? Sometimes? Mostly? Never?
The purpose of these questions isn’t to make you paranoid or nervous about yourself and others, or to make you think that your people skills are hopeless.
The real purpose for these questions is to give you a more accurate idea of how you come across to other people. Once you know whether others seem to be comfortable around you or not, then you can make a decision about whether you should try to improve your people skills in any particular area.
If it turns out that you are deficient in one or more areas of your people skills, don’t think that you have to attack yourself. You don’t need to criticize yourself in anyway if you realize that people aren’t rushing to your side to be your friend.
If it turns out that other people aren’t drawn to you, it doesn’t mean that you are a deficient or flawed human being. It just means you have some areas in which you can improve your performance, and improve your results.
The area in which you need to improve might turn out to be as basic as improving the eye contact you make with others. Or perhaps you need to learn to be less negative and more positive in what you say. You can learn more ways to improve your communications skills in my short ebook report titled “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation” which is available at http://www.lulu.com/real
Maybe the real problem is simply that you don’t like yourself. Sometimes we find that when we learn to like ourselves better, suddenly the rest of the world becomes more likable too.
If that’s the case, you can work on learning to like yourself better. If you don’t know where to start, you might benefit from seeing a really good therapist.
You can learn more tips to improve your people skills in the following article by Peter Murphy.
( The introduction above is written by Royane Real. )
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People Skills Magic in 7 Steps
By Peter Murphy
Good people skills come naturally to some and are a struggle for others. Learning people skills is usually a matter of just being a member of society, but to truly understand the proper ways to interact sometimes involves instruction.
There are some basic guidelines to cultivating good people skills. The following list explains certain qualities one should have to be considered in possession of good people skills.
1. Interact.
In order to develop and use your people skills you need to be with people. Carrying on conversations, being part of a group and being in social situations are all ways to interact with others and work on your people skills.
2. Talk well.
If you speak properly and use good grammar, people will appreciate talking to you more. You will be seen as intelligent and a good conversationalist. Even if you do not know technical words or language, if you just use good grammar it can go a long way in making you look smart.
3. Have a point.
Do not talk just to hear your own voice. Always have something to say of some importance. Nobody likes to talk with someone who never really has anything meaningful to say. Babbling on and on will only push people away, not draw them to you.
4. Have an understanding of people in general.
You should have some clue as to reactions and thoughts of other people. This will allow you to know how to interact with them in a way that is appropriate and will make them feel comfortable. Not knowing how people tick can lead to uncomfortable situations where everyone is looking for a way out.
5. Be a problem solver.
Someone who knows how to logically and calmly solve problems is a great friend for anyone to have. We all know the hot head that we would rather not ever disagree with. This hot head also probably does not have many friends. Being the calm problem solver will make you much more appealing to others.
6. Be a team player.
This means to share in the conversation, not dominate it. Nobody likes someone who always has to be the center of attention or always be the one talking. Share the spotlight and let others talk sometimes.
7. Express yourself clearly.
This is important no matter what type of conversation you are having. If no one can understand you they won't want to talk to you.
These seven tips can help you become a master in people skills. Others will like being in your company and you will find your relationships to be more enjoyable.
People skills work in every social situation and it is a good idea to make sure yours are on track.
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