Good Conversation Every Time When You Avoid 6 Common Mistakes
By: Peter Murphy
Introductory comments by Royane Real
Author of “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation”
To be a good conversationalist there are a few positive things you need to do more of when you are talking to someone. There are also a few negative things you need to avoid if you want to have good conversations with others.
The most common conversational blunders include talking too much, especially about yourself, and not listening to the other person.
The following article by Peter Murphy lists some of the more common conversational mistakes you should watch out for. They include such mistakes as trying to take over the conversation and making yourself the chief topic of the conversation and the chief know-it-all.
A friendly conversation with another person won’t really work very well if you spend your time trying to convince the other person that you are really much smarter about everything than they are. People won’t look forward to talking to you again if they think you are arrogant.
You’ll notice that avoiding these common conversational mistakes simply requires common sense and common courtesy. Do you have to be perfect every time in order to become a good conversationalist? Not really. You have to let yourself make mistakes. Otherwise, you’ll be too scared to try. Being too scared to talk to other people in case you make a mistake in conversation would be even worse than talking too much.
Being perfect all the time just isn’t possible for humans. So, let yourself have some leeway. If you notice that you are making a conversational mistake such as hogging the spotlight too much, don’t criticize yourself for it. Instead, simply remind yourself to keep quiet once in a while. Be sure to let your partner have some high quality attention while they are talking.
This will impress them more than anything else you could say.
( The above introductory comments were written by conversation expert Royane Real )
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Good Conversation Every Time When You Avoid 6 Common Mistakes
By: Peter Murphy
There are six common ways that people ruin a good conversation. You need to be aware of them to ensure you avoid these common mistakes:
1. “Blah, Blah, Blah”
The “Blabbermouth” is the number one enemy of the good conversation. Never letting the other person get a word in, the word hog just continues talking. The other party soon tunes out.
People who get paid to give talks run the risk of becoming a blabbermouth. It's an occupational hazard of becoming a good speaker, to forget about the listening part of a conversation.
2. “Me, too!”
Someone innocently starts a topic. The other person basically grabs the ball and runs with it. (Or you might say runs at the mouth with it.) You might mention that you just saw a great movie. The 'me, too' talker will say: "Oh, really? I just saw the new Sci-Fi flick….."
Then “me, too” person starts to describe the movie he or she saw, leaving you high and dry with your conversation starter. This is something you might expect from time to time from with a child, but you hope that an adult, with good conversation skills won't drive others away with such annoying behavior.
3. “Take My Advice”
At the drop of a hint of a problem, this person is quick to offer advice. They are like a dam about to burst unless they can find someone to dispatch their most needed advice in the world. More men tend to ruin a good conversation with this bad habit than women. Both men and women do it, though.
There is nothing more annoying then talking to someone who suddenly turns into one of your parents. If you have a bad habit of doing this and are wisely trying to break it, let the person finish what they were saying. Then you can ask if they wanted an opinion or just wanted to express themselves.
Chances are they have probably already thought of a solution and just needed a sounding board. Don't offer advice unless asked for it, is still a good motto.
4. “We now interrupt this program, because we are rude.”
Interrupting before your conversation partner has had a chance to finish their thought is annoying. It shows that you think what you have to say is much more important than what the other person is saying.
5. Contradiction
A good conversation doesn't play the “I'm right so you should be wrong” game. A better way is to let the person finish. Then say, “I have a different view than yours. I'll explain".
If you've allowed the other person a chance to explain their viewpoint, they are more likely to listen to yours.
6. Making Minimal Contributions Only
There is a big difference between someone who is actively listening and someone who only takes from a conversation, but never offers anything. It's hard to trust someone who expects you to contribute personal information while they sit quietly, with a minimum of contribution.
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