By : Ladi Lashkari

Introductory comments by Royane Real

Author of   “Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation”

Anyone who has ever dated more than one or two people probably has their share of dating horror stories.  Many things can go wrong on a date, but if they do, at least you know this is a person that you do not want to see again.  Or, the other person doesn’t want to see you either.

The purpose of dating is to get to know somebody better, to find out how the two of you get along.  To have fun.  To decide whether or not you want to see them again.  To get to know them better.  How do you discover all that?  By talking to the other person.

The problem that many people have with making conversation on a first date is that they are usually very nervous.  They worry that the stakes are so high. While they are really trying hard to impress the other person, they may end up not being their true selves. 

It’s easy on a first date to talk too much or not talk enough.  It’s easy to offend or put off the other person without knowing why.

There’s a lot of information available today about how to behave and what to say on a first date.  Sometimes this dating advice is aimed at trying to manipulate the other person so you can get them to do what you want. 

If you’re only concerned with dating somebody once or twice so that you can get what you want out of them, you are probably not going to be very concerned about whether or not the two of you will get along on a long term basis.  If you are only planning to go out a couple of times, you don’t really care very much about the deeper feelings and ambitions of the person you are dating.

However, if you are going on a date with somebody because they intrigue you and you want to spend time with them and get to know them better, then you need to learn how to start having a real dialogue with them. 

First date conversations can be very nerve-wracking.  How wonderful when you find someone with whom it seems like you can talk freely!

Despite all the advice available for first time dates, I have been on dates with people who did nothing but talk non-stop about themselves for hours, and who showed no consideration or interest in me at all.  Needless to say, there were no second dates after the first one.

To make sure you don’t make any first date conversation mistakes, be sure you focus on getting to know the other person.  Make them feel respected, valued, comfortable.

( The above introductory comments were written by Royane Real, author of the popular report Your Guide to Making Friendly Conversation” )

There is some helpful advice for you in the following article by Rosanne Leaton that can help you learn how to relax more when you are having a conversation, through the use of hypnosis.

( These introductory comments above are written by conversation expert Royane Real. )

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 First Date Conversation Tips - 3 Powerful Tips for your Perfect First Date

By : Ladi Lashkari

Your first date conversation has a big effect on the impression you make on your date. And as you know, you never get a second chance to make a first impression or create a perfect first date with someone. 

In addition to making a good impression, your conversation is important also because it helps you learn more about that person by asking questions. 

After all, you want to see whether you and him/her have enough things in common to go on a second date or not.

So what should you talk about? What questions should you ask? How should you keep the conversation going in a fun and relaxing way for both of you? 

Here are 3 tips for a successful conversation...

Tip #1: Ask Good, Fun Questions  

Questions are a great way to keep the conversation going. They will also help you learn more about this person so you can find out how much you have in common and if you're compatible enough to enter an intimate romantic relationship. 

Here are  3 great  first date questions  that will help you keep the conversation going in a fun way, and also will tell you a lot about your date's personality and lifestyle. 

Also be sure to listen to your date carefully and really pay attention to him/her.  Show your date you are curious to know more about him by asking follow-up questions about what he just said.

It will also make a very good impression on your date that you are really paying attention to him/her.

Tip #2: Keep the Focus on Your Date 

Be curious about your date. Ask him/her questions and then pay full attention when he/she answers. 

It will really make a good impression on your date and will make him/her like you, because you showed that you are a thoughtful and polite person who values other people's opinions and lives - not just him/herself.

Because you know how rare these kinds of people are who really listen to you when you speak about yourself.  I mean really listen. 

Also by asking questions about them and listening carefully, you get the chance to learn much more about that person and decide if you like him/her and want to start a relationship with him/her.

Most people (especially men) keep talking about themselves and things they have accomplished while neglecting her opinions and forgetting to ask about her.

They just want to impress their date and show her they are better than the other guys she has dated, but the results will be the opposite.

So remember to keep the focus on your date! 

Tip #3: Keep Your First Date Short and Fun  

The purpose of a first date is to get to know each other a little and get a general idea of the other person's personality and way of life. So that you can decide if there's enough chemistry and compatibility between you two.

If you like this person in the first place, you'll always have time for a second, third, and more dates to get to know them more and more.  So don't rush into things. 

Also avoid talking about risky topics like politics, religion, your or your date's exes, and so on.

So make your first date short and simple. Have fun, and enjoy talking to each other and being together.

Wish you a lot of success in your next first date!

Ladan Lashkari

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